Post by Ebrahim on Feb 15, 2005 21:30:25 GMT -5
It is the right of parents that their children should treat them with kindness, obedience, and honor. Devotion to parents is a natural instinct which must be strengthened by deliberate actions. The rights of the mother are stressed the more because of her suffering during pregnancy and childbirth, her suckling of the child, and her role in rearing it.
In the words of Allah(swt):
”And We have enjoined on man kindness to his parents. His mother carries him in pain and she gives birth to him in pain, and (the period) of carrying him and weaning him is thirty months...”[/color](46:15)
Once a man came to the Prophet(saw) and asked, 'Who is most deserving of my good companionship?' 'Your mother,' replied the Prophet(saw). 'Who next?' the man asked. 'Your mother,' replied the Prophet(saw). 'Who next?' he asked. 'Your mother,' replied the Prophet(saw). 'Who next?' asked the man. 'Your father,' replied the Prophet(saw).[/color] (Reported by al-Bukhari and Muslim.)
The Prophet(saw) declared disobedience to parents to be a major sin. Al-Bukhari and Muslim report his saying, 'Shall I not inform you about the three major sins?' Those who were present replied, 'Yes, O Messenger of Allah.' He(saw) said 'Associating partners with Allah and disobedience to parents,' and sitting up from the reclining position, he continued, 'and telling lies and false testimony; beware of it.' [/color]
He(saw) also said, "Three persons shall not enter the Garden: the one who is disobedient to his parents, the pimp, and the woman who imitates men.'' [/color](Reported by al-Nisai, al-Bazzar on the authority of excellent transmitters, and al-Hakim)
and,
"Allah defers (the punishment of) all sins to the Day of Resurrection excepting disobedience to parents, for which Allah punishes the sinner in this life before his death."[/color] (Reported by al-Hakim, on the authority of sound transmitters.)
Moreover, Islam emphasizes treating parents kindly, especially when they grow old. As their strength fails, they require more attention and care, and more consideration of their even more sensitive feelings. Concerning this the Qur'an says:
“Thy Lord hath decreed that you worship none but Him and that you be kind to parents. If one or both of them attain old age with thee, do not say a word of annoyance (Literally, "Do not say Uff! (an expression of annoyance) to them." (Trans.)) to them nor repulse them, but speak to them in gracious words and in mercy lower to them the wing of humility and say, My Lord, bestow Thy mercy on them, as they cherished me when I was little...”[/color] (17:23-24)
In addition to the foregoing, the Prophet(saw) not only prohibited insulting or cursing one's parents but declared it to be a major sin. He said, 'Among the major sins is a man's cursing his parents.' The people who were present wondered how a sane and believing individual could curse his own parents, and enquired, 'How is it possible for a man to curse his own parents?' The Prophet(saw) replied, 'He insults another man's father, and then the other insults his father, and he insults the other's mother, and the other returns the insult to his mother.'[/color] (Reported by al-Bukhari and Muslim.)
The Parent's Consent for Jihad[/color]
Pleasing one's parents is considered so important in Islam that the son is forbidden to volunteer for jihad without his parent's permission, in spite of the fact that fighting in the cause of Allah has such great merit in Islam that the merit of a person who spends his nights in prayer and his days in fasting falls short of it.
Narrated Abdullah bin Amr bin al-As, A man came to the Prophet (saw) and asked his permission to go for jihad. The Prophet(saw) asked, 'Are your parents living?' 'Yes,' he replied. The Prophet(saw) then said, 'Then strive in their service'[/color] (Reported by al-Bukhari and Muslim), meaning that taking care of parents is a greater obligation than jihad in the cause of Allah.
Abdullah also narrated, A man came to the Prophet(saw) and said, 'I take the oath of allegiance to you for hijrah (emigration to Medina) and jihad, seeking reward from Allah.' The Prophet(saw) enquired whether either of his parents were living. On his replying that both of them were, the Prophet(saw) said, 'Are you (really) seeking reward from Allah?' 'Yes,' the man said. The Prophet(saw) then said, 'Go back to your parents and be a good companion to them.'[/color] (Reported by Muslim.)
Abdullah further narrated, A man came to the Prophet(saw) and said, 'I have come to swear allegiance to you for hijrah, and I have left my parents weeping.' The Prophet(saw) said to him, 'Return to them and make them laugh as you made them weep.'[/color] (Reported by al-Bukhari and others.)
Abu Sa'id reported that A man from Yemen migrated to Madinah to be with the Prophet(saw). The Prophet(saw) asked him, 'Do you have any relatives in Yemen?' He answered, 'My parents.' 'Did you get their permission?' the Prophet(saw) asked. On his replying that he did not, the Prophet(saw) told him, 'Go back to them and ask their permission. If they agree to it, go on jihad. Otherwise stay and serve them.'[/color] (Reported by Abu Dawood.)
In the words of Allah(swt):
”And We have enjoined on man kindness to his parents. His mother carries him in pain and she gives birth to him in pain, and (the period) of carrying him and weaning him is thirty months...”[/color](46:15)
Once a man came to the Prophet(saw) and asked, 'Who is most deserving of my good companionship?' 'Your mother,' replied the Prophet(saw). 'Who next?' the man asked. 'Your mother,' replied the Prophet(saw). 'Who next?' he asked. 'Your mother,' replied the Prophet(saw). 'Who next?' asked the man. 'Your father,' replied the Prophet(saw).[/color] (Reported by al-Bukhari and Muslim.)
The Prophet(saw) declared disobedience to parents to be a major sin. Al-Bukhari and Muslim report his saying, 'Shall I not inform you about the three major sins?' Those who were present replied, 'Yes, O Messenger of Allah.' He(saw) said 'Associating partners with Allah and disobedience to parents,' and sitting up from the reclining position, he continued, 'and telling lies and false testimony; beware of it.' [/color]
He(saw) also said, "Three persons shall not enter the Garden: the one who is disobedient to his parents, the pimp, and the woman who imitates men.'' [/color](Reported by al-Nisai, al-Bazzar on the authority of excellent transmitters, and al-Hakim)
and,
"Allah defers (the punishment of) all sins to the Day of Resurrection excepting disobedience to parents, for which Allah punishes the sinner in this life before his death."[/color] (Reported by al-Hakim, on the authority of sound transmitters.)
Moreover, Islam emphasizes treating parents kindly, especially when they grow old. As their strength fails, they require more attention and care, and more consideration of their even more sensitive feelings. Concerning this the Qur'an says:
“Thy Lord hath decreed that you worship none but Him and that you be kind to parents. If one or both of them attain old age with thee, do not say a word of annoyance (Literally, "Do not say Uff! (an expression of annoyance) to them." (Trans.)) to them nor repulse them, but speak to them in gracious words and in mercy lower to them the wing of humility and say, My Lord, bestow Thy mercy on them, as they cherished me when I was little...”[/color] (17:23-24)
In addition to the foregoing, the Prophet(saw) not only prohibited insulting or cursing one's parents but declared it to be a major sin. He said, 'Among the major sins is a man's cursing his parents.' The people who were present wondered how a sane and believing individual could curse his own parents, and enquired, 'How is it possible for a man to curse his own parents?' The Prophet(saw) replied, 'He insults another man's father, and then the other insults his father, and he insults the other's mother, and the other returns the insult to his mother.'[/color] (Reported by al-Bukhari and Muslim.)
The Parent's Consent for Jihad[/color]
Pleasing one's parents is considered so important in Islam that the son is forbidden to volunteer for jihad without his parent's permission, in spite of the fact that fighting in the cause of Allah has such great merit in Islam that the merit of a person who spends his nights in prayer and his days in fasting falls short of it.
Narrated Abdullah bin Amr bin al-As, A man came to the Prophet (saw) and asked his permission to go for jihad. The Prophet(saw) asked, 'Are your parents living?' 'Yes,' he replied. The Prophet(saw) then said, 'Then strive in their service'[/color] (Reported by al-Bukhari and Muslim), meaning that taking care of parents is a greater obligation than jihad in the cause of Allah.
Abdullah also narrated, A man came to the Prophet(saw) and said, 'I take the oath of allegiance to you for hijrah (emigration to Medina) and jihad, seeking reward from Allah.' The Prophet(saw) enquired whether either of his parents were living. On his replying that both of them were, the Prophet(saw) said, 'Are you (really) seeking reward from Allah?' 'Yes,' the man said. The Prophet(saw) then said, 'Go back to your parents and be a good companion to them.'[/color] (Reported by Muslim.)
Abdullah further narrated, A man came to the Prophet(saw) and said, 'I have come to swear allegiance to you for hijrah, and I have left my parents weeping.' The Prophet(saw) said to him, 'Return to them and make them laugh as you made them weep.'[/color] (Reported by al-Bukhari and others.)
Abu Sa'id reported that A man from Yemen migrated to Madinah to be with the Prophet(saw). The Prophet(saw) asked him, 'Do you have any relatives in Yemen?' He answered, 'My parents.' 'Did you get their permission?' the Prophet(saw) asked. On his replying that he did not, the Prophet(saw) told him, 'Go back to them and ask their permission. If they agree to it, go on jihad. Otherwise stay and serve them.'[/color] (Reported by Abu Dawood.)