Post by maruf on Jun 28, 2004 9:28:28 GMT -5
Islamic Revival wrote:
Motherhood vs Career
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And on the topic of women, here's a quote I like pertaining to the choice of motherhood over career, taken from "First Things First" by Stephen R. Covey, A. Roger Merrill & Rebecca R. Merrill, chapter 6, 'The Balance of Roles', pg 123:
'Rebecca: I'm often troubled by the stigma attached to women who choose to focus their time and effort primarily on motherhood. It is as if society somehow deems it less valuable to raise competent children than to raise the profit on a company's product line.
A women who chooses to focus on motherhood, and does so out of a clear sense of her own personal vision, becomes truly energized in her role. She recognizes the value of her efforts in shaping the characters of future leaders in society. And in the process, she develops competence and character to fulfill other roles. Perhaps a second career or another degree are in the plans, but that doesn't distract from the task at hand. It's not a matter of capacity, but of chosen contribution.
There are women who choose motherhood for a season who don't earn the character and competence because they aren't deeply connected to a vision of the role and don't fully apply their creative energy to it. But those who do are empowered to fulfill other roles with excellence.'
Part I
My response:
Here is a short paper I wrote about a book related to the topic of family. I have edited the original paper. In America and Britain, which are capitalistic societies, the value is put on profit versus any kind of moral, spiritual, or family value. Women in fact are not separated from the value system. Women, particularly kafir women, and I am sure some Muslims too (because we live in these societies and thus are influenced, some to a greater degree than others, nonetheless hardly any not influenced) get their self worth and value from society as well.
Quite a bit of women (not all) feel a greater self worth in working hard at work versus coming home and doing house work that is expected of the woman, thus less appreciated by men or the family. Islaam gives us a different value system in life, our purpose is to get to Jennah by worshiping Allah and to raise healthy Islaamic families and societies. Now of course we need a State system to best accomplish this objective individually and collectively. Muslim women should encourage and understand sacrifices Muslim men should and do make for the Da’wah because she understands they will meet Allah. Muslim men should remind their wives that their reward is in the next life for all the hard work they do at home with the family and sacrificed time with the family and maybe away from the husband. The Muslim home ideally should not be a place of competition and war between the husband and wife, father and son, or mother and daughter. There should not be a feminist battle in Islaam (assuming Islaam is applied as it should be) against men, for Allah produced Islaam not man. The capitalistic system is inherently flawed because it came from the minds of men who are limited and subjective, thus incapable of providing justice to women or men.
Even for those families desiring to better care for their families and live an Islaamic life, it is commonly known that you need a Dual income to support your family in today’s American society. At one point, especially during the 50s period, men were paid a family wage, enough for them to work only and support the family while women to stayed at home and tended to the family, this is not the case any longer, in order to pay the bills and support our consumerism, you need two incomes. Not only this but many of us do not have our extended family here in the west to help care for our children. Many of us have left mothers and fathers back in our native countries or our mothers and fathers work themselves.
The fact that many are influenced by the capitalistic value in society and many have to work to survive, it creates a Time Bind in the lives of families. There is a reason why divorce rates are more that 50 percent in America, and time spent together in a healthy sense, plays a vital role. Many in America do not have the time to enjoy their families and luxuries that they have due to spending so much time at work, some working two to three jobs or lots of overtime. Working hard and long is looked at as a good thing, spending time with the family, is viewed as weak (feminine if you are a male or female), even if it is done by the women in society. This is women’s liberation after all.
Capitalism is simply a crime against humanity and civilization. The West is highly angry with Muslim societies to convert us to their way of life, despite the fact that their way of life is not even working for their people. Does this make sense? It does not, but they do not care, they only care about increasing and maximizes profit, they really do not care about women’s rights, human rights, or any other rights save their right to dominate secular capitalistic ways over our lives.
Islaam is the solution because it comes from Allah, but Islaam must be implemented totally in our lives, not just in ethics or individualistic principles, but with systems that bring values based on Islaam. The political system influences the economic system and vice versa. The economical system influences the social system and vice versa. Ideologies work in this fashion. We in the west live under the corrupt ideology of capitalism and should not simply think it is an economic system only that does not influence how much we work, what we watch on TV, how much time we spend with our families, what we views as important, where we live, what we teach our children, and the list goes on and on. May Allah help the Muslims who are actively working to bring back Islaam as a solution to our and the world’s many problems due to corrupt man made views about life or ideologies.
TEXT
Time Bind, When Work Becomes Home and Home Becomes Work, is a book by Sociologist Arlie Russell Hochschild that seeks to examine the balance between work life and family/personal home life in the lives of the men and women she studied at a major corporation in America. Hochschild gave the company a fictional name called Amerco. She chose to study Amerco because it was “reputed to be a national leader in the march toward work-family balance.” (Hochschild 2000:xvii). Hochschild was given access to the entire company. From the CEO to the janitor, she could roam the facility and interview whomever she liked.
Hochschild discovered that despite great family oriented benefits; very few people in Amerco utilized their benefits. She seeks to gain the answer why as she takes us through the lives of the various workers and their families at Amerco. Through the studying of the subjects she comes to find out that work has become home and home has become work in the sense of defining home as some where you feel comfortable and work where one might feel forced and less pleasing. For many of the subjects, the places had become reversed.
TEXT
Home is work and Work is home
As the subtitle suggests, Hochschild explains that because home life can be so stressful with children, housework, and personal relationships, which seem less appreciated and rewarded than our lives at work, which are respected and rewarded, home can become work and work can become home in the sense that work is where we feel more relaxed and appreciated.
In one of her first interviews with a lady named Linda (fictional name to protect identity), she discovers that Linda sought to work more to get away from the stress of here home life. Linda’s husband did not help out with the housework and she had two children (a baby and older daughter) that demanded her time as soon as she came in from work, so the stress started for her when she came home, not at work. At work, Linda was a supervisor and was appreciated by her co-workers. This was the trend response she got from many of the workers at Amerco. Hochschild (1997) states here:
In this new model of family and work life, a tired parent flees a world of unresolved quarrels and unwashed laundry for the reliable orderliness, harmony, and managed cheer of work. (p.44)
Overall, this “reversal” was a predominant pattern in about a fifth of the Amerco families, and an important them in over half of them. (p.45)
Workers like Linda, in fact, had become “Father” and “Mother” figures to the people they managed or supervised at work due to the company’s culture and values. The roles where being transferred, in a sense from home to work, for quite a few.
Motherhood vs Career
« Reply #1 on: Today at 05:16:15 » <br>
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And on the topic of women, here's a quote I like pertaining to the choice of motherhood over career, taken from "First Things First" by Stephen R. Covey, A. Roger Merrill & Rebecca R. Merrill, chapter 6, 'The Balance of Roles', pg 123:
'Rebecca: I'm often troubled by the stigma attached to women who choose to focus their time and effort primarily on motherhood. It is as if society somehow deems it less valuable to raise competent children than to raise the profit on a company's product line.
A women who chooses to focus on motherhood, and does so out of a clear sense of her own personal vision, becomes truly energized in her role. She recognizes the value of her efforts in shaping the characters of future leaders in society. And in the process, she develops competence and character to fulfill other roles. Perhaps a second career or another degree are in the plans, but that doesn't distract from the task at hand. It's not a matter of capacity, but of chosen contribution.
There are women who choose motherhood for a season who don't earn the character and competence because they aren't deeply connected to a vision of the role and don't fully apply their creative energy to it. But those who do are empowered to fulfill other roles with excellence.'
Part I
My response:
Here is a short paper I wrote about a book related to the topic of family. I have edited the original paper. In America and Britain, which are capitalistic societies, the value is put on profit versus any kind of moral, spiritual, or family value. Women in fact are not separated from the value system. Women, particularly kafir women, and I am sure some Muslims too (because we live in these societies and thus are influenced, some to a greater degree than others, nonetheless hardly any not influenced) get their self worth and value from society as well.
Quite a bit of women (not all) feel a greater self worth in working hard at work versus coming home and doing house work that is expected of the woman, thus less appreciated by men or the family. Islaam gives us a different value system in life, our purpose is to get to Jennah by worshiping Allah and to raise healthy Islaamic families and societies. Now of course we need a State system to best accomplish this objective individually and collectively. Muslim women should encourage and understand sacrifices Muslim men should and do make for the Da’wah because she understands they will meet Allah. Muslim men should remind their wives that their reward is in the next life for all the hard work they do at home with the family and sacrificed time with the family and maybe away from the husband. The Muslim home ideally should not be a place of competition and war between the husband and wife, father and son, or mother and daughter. There should not be a feminist battle in Islaam (assuming Islaam is applied as it should be) against men, for Allah produced Islaam not man. The capitalistic system is inherently flawed because it came from the minds of men who are limited and subjective, thus incapable of providing justice to women or men.
Even for those families desiring to better care for their families and live an Islaamic life, it is commonly known that you need a Dual income to support your family in today’s American society. At one point, especially during the 50s period, men were paid a family wage, enough for them to work only and support the family while women to stayed at home and tended to the family, this is not the case any longer, in order to pay the bills and support our consumerism, you need two incomes. Not only this but many of us do not have our extended family here in the west to help care for our children. Many of us have left mothers and fathers back in our native countries or our mothers and fathers work themselves.
The fact that many are influenced by the capitalistic value in society and many have to work to survive, it creates a Time Bind in the lives of families. There is a reason why divorce rates are more that 50 percent in America, and time spent together in a healthy sense, plays a vital role. Many in America do not have the time to enjoy their families and luxuries that they have due to spending so much time at work, some working two to three jobs or lots of overtime. Working hard and long is looked at as a good thing, spending time with the family, is viewed as weak (feminine if you are a male or female), even if it is done by the women in society. This is women’s liberation after all.
Capitalism is simply a crime against humanity and civilization. The West is highly angry with Muslim societies to convert us to their way of life, despite the fact that their way of life is not even working for their people. Does this make sense? It does not, but they do not care, they only care about increasing and maximizes profit, they really do not care about women’s rights, human rights, or any other rights save their right to dominate secular capitalistic ways over our lives.
Islaam is the solution because it comes from Allah, but Islaam must be implemented totally in our lives, not just in ethics or individualistic principles, but with systems that bring values based on Islaam. The political system influences the economic system and vice versa. The economical system influences the social system and vice versa. Ideologies work in this fashion. We in the west live under the corrupt ideology of capitalism and should not simply think it is an economic system only that does not influence how much we work, what we watch on TV, how much time we spend with our families, what we views as important, where we live, what we teach our children, and the list goes on and on. May Allah help the Muslims who are actively working to bring back Islaam as a solution to our and the world’s many problems due to corrupt man made views about life or ideologies.
TEXT
TEXT
Time Bind, When Work Becomes Home and Home Becomes Work, is a book by Sociologist Arlie Russell Hochschild that seeks to examine the balance between work life and family/personal home life in the lives of the men and women she studied at a major corporation in America. Hochschild gave the company a fictional name called Amerco. She chose to study Amerco because it was “reputed to be a national leader in the march toward work-family balance.” (Hochschild 2000:xvii). Hochschild was given access to the entire company. From the CEO to the janitor, she could roam the facility and interview whomever she liked.
Hochschild discovered that despite great family oriented benefits; very few people in Amerco utilized their benefits. She seeks to gain the answer why as she takes us through the lives of the various workers and their families at Amerco. Through the studying of the subjects she comes to find out that work has become home and home has become work in the sense of defining home as some where you feel comfortable and work where one might feel forced and less pleasing. For many of the subjects, the places had become reversed.
TEXT
Home is work and Work is home
As the subtitle suggests, Hochschild explains that because home life can be so stressful with children, housework, and personal relationships, which seem less appreciated and rewarded than our lives at work, which are respected and rewarded, home can become work and work can become home in the sense that work is where we feel more relaxed and appreciated.
In one of her first interviews with a lady named Linda (fictional name to protect identity), she discovers that Linda sought to work more to get away from the stress of here home life. Linda’s husband did not help out with the housework and she had two children (a baby and older daughter) that demanded her time as soon as she came in from work, so the stress started for her when she came home, not at work. At work, Linda was a supervisor and was appreciated by her co-workers. This was the trend response she got from many of the workers at Amerco. Hochschild (1997) states here:
In this new model of family and work life, a tired parent flees a world of unresolved quarrels and unwashed laundry for the reliable orderliness, harmony, and managed cheer of work. (p.44)
Overall, this “reversal” was a predominant pattern in about a fifth of the Amerco families, and an important them in over half of them. (p.45)
Workers like Linda, in fact, had become “Father” and “Mother” figures to the people they managed or supervised at work due to the company’s culture and values. The roles where being transferred, in a sense from home to work, for quite a few.